The essence of cold violence is mental abuse. Cold violence will make those at a lower position in the relationship even more miserable and even doubt themselves. So what should you do if you encounter cold violence in your relationship?
Experiencing cold violence in relationships generally includes the following manifestations:
Long-term refusal to communicate directly, lack of confidence in others Half of the words and actions are without any feedback
Speech distortion, sarcasm, denying the other person's quality, suppressing the other person's self-esteem
Ignore the other half, ignore the other half's existence, and go your own way Life
Losing control of your emotions without any reason or reason, blaming the other person, overly criticizing and denying the other half
It embarrasses you and puts you in an awkward and uncomfortable environment.
If these situations occur frequently in your relationship, then there is a high probability that you have been cold-violated, and the other party has no good impression of you at all, and just wants the relationship to end as soon as possible.
If you encounter cold violence in your relationship, here are some suggestions I give you:
1. Make it clear where the boundaries between you are
You need to clearly tell your significant other that you hope this relationship will develop well, but you also hope you can be honest with each other. The other party can offer opinions and thoughts, but do not personally attack you in the process. You work together to solve problems, not fight each other.
If the other person shows disrespect for you, then you will end the relationship immediately.
2. Seek more help
The reason why many people are kidnapped by cold violence is because they are in an isolated and helpless state - there is no one around them Who can listen to your own experience? After you have been suppressed, no one can restore your confidence.
If you suffer from cold violence, you must seek more help and talk to your friends and family about your experience and thoughts, whether it is to relieve your stress or give you more courage to get rid of it. You both need more support in this relationship.
3. When things cannot get better, break up decisively
If the situation of the other half does not improve, If your partner is forcing you to break up from the beginning, then the best way is to cut off the relationship directly.
Don’t feel that you can’t let the other person succeed, so you keep spending time with the other person – you can’t consume this person, and you still care about this relationship, but obviously this person doesn’t care at all.
So, if you feel like somethingThe situation cannot get better at all, and I sincerely suggest that you break up with this person immediately.
